Want a girlfriend or boyfriend? Do salsa!

Hi Superheros,

In case you don’t know, I love salsa. I’ve been doing salsa for about 3 years now and I frigging love it!
Why? I get to hang out with awesome people, we laugh, we make fools of ourselves, we meet new people, and if you want to hold a sexy women or cool man close to your body, you get to do this too. How Good!

What I also love about salsa is a great place to build a social connection.
Whether you realise it or not, the way people build connection is being in each others company a lot.
This is why people who work together end up dating, getting married and even having affairs at times. Why? Social connection over time.

I am very clear that who you hand out with over time, defines who you are, how you feel, what you think and what you will have in your life.

It also means to know how to interact when in the company of others.
If you want to know how to get a girlfriend, how to date women, how to date over 40. Come to salsa.
Yes, you will feel embarrassed, yes you will feel silly, yes it will take time, yes you need to leave your couch and TV. Yes you need to leave the safety of your friends and what you think they will think of you.

Lots of fun
New skills
New health
Get skinner
Get sexier
Meet hot fun awesome guys and gals
Take charge of your ego, your fears and your life.
Get an interesting life.

Wow! who would ever have though, committing 2 hours a week to learning how to salsa dance would give you so much value.

Well my fellow super hero’s, if you’re reading this. It does plus so much more.

So get on out their guys and gals, go find the love of your life, meet great women, great guys. Have fun and be social.

To your success,

Trevor Russell




Buying Girls Stuff – DOES NOT EQUAL SEX

Yes, superheros, get this, buying girls stuff

Have a listen to this interview with Pamela Anderson and Howard Stern.
Pamela talks about a Hollywood producer who thinks Tiffany s, Rolls Royce cars, Prada, money might open those legs up. Not So!

Howard Stern Show – Pam Anderson

What does a guy do to get sex?
How do you get a girlfriend?
How do you get to like you and want to have sex with you without buying her expense things? 

1. Firstly you need to get this, buying stuff does not create attraction in women.
2. What creates attraction is how you are being as a man.
This means being confident, open, fun, honest, cheeky even. A bit of a mystery to her.
3. Talk to the WOW side of her brain.
Most guys to talk to her shopping list side of her brain, being lap dogs, asking her million questions. Buying her stuff before you’ve had sex.
WOW side talking is being playful, confident, being a good story teller, being interested in her but not being a sucker hanging on her every word.
Being interesting, having hobbies, passions, and a life!
Being a bit unavailable.
4. Being confident enough to flirt with her and being very clear you are with her because you are attracted to her.
Not pretending to be a friend when you really want to get into her pants.
Be polite, but cheeky, fun and flirt with her.
5. YES – Buy her a coffee, buy her a juice, buy her a cup of tea. Yes.
5. NO – Don’t buy her stuff. Don’t buy expensive dinners, don’t buy gifts, don’t buy her stuff.
UNTIL, until you have had sex.
Then the game changes.

Being attractive to a women is more than anything about you being a man and not needing her. Being a man and being able to be in your own company and liking yourself.
She will get the difference.

Yes, some women want you to buy them everything. These women will pretend to like you and even have sex with you. However they will never be truly attracted to you and you will always know at some level she is only sitting on you because of your money.

If or when it’s gone. So will she.

Now go and have fun, take her out for coffee or juice.

To your success,


Are you a Man or a Pussy?

Are you are Man or a Pussy? 

That’s right, are you a Man or are you a Pussy? Why do I ask this question?
I was out last night and I continue to notice the men in one corner and the women in the other. The women know the men want to meet them and see how afraid they are.
Do you want to know why these women are wasting their time on their phone texting blah blah. Cause their bored man. Bored, all they seek is attention from a confident, fun man.

Playing it safe and fearing rejection is for Pussies!  Listen to what Arnold as to say about getting what you want in life. 

Arnold Schwarzenegger: Life’s 6 Rules


Arnold’s 6 Rules To Life Success
1. Trust yourself! Who do you want to be in this life?
What makes you happy, no matter how crazy it may sound to other people.
2. Break the rules. If you want her, be willing to break the rules and meet her.
Stop wanting to be accepted and liked. Go for what you want.
3. Don’t be afraid to fail. Yes, if you try something and it doesn’t work, go again.
You will live.
4. Don’t listen to the scared and the weak. If you must, be the first to do it.
5. Work your butt off. Do what it takes to get what you want.
Go up to 20 women if you must until you get your girl.
Get off the TV, get off Facebook and get out there and go get her.
6. Give back. Be helpful and supportive to others.
Where you can help your friends meet their ideal woman, so they can find love and fun in their life.

I say to you men if you want a great woman, or to meet some and have fun and have hot great sex.

I say to you, SUCK IT UP, say to yourself, F^&%K OFF to fear, I say, go after what you want, regardless of fear. 

I promise you my friend, most women are doing their thing while they are waiting for their man to come along. Its all they talk, think and dream about. Some even in relationships are too. I know, funny. But True!

If you want a women, stop playing it safe, stop hiding out on RSVP or dating websites, stop playing it safe, stop going to the brothel, be man enough to take charge of feelings of rejection and fear. They’re just women, not monsters.

You’re the man, it’s your job on this planet to find out if she is available, politely. Be willing to even get no’s or ‘I’m not interested’, or even get a, ‘hey yes, I’d like to come out with you’.

I promise you they’re everywhere all around you, just take a look. Go say hi, introduce yourself. Be a Man!

Even if they’re taken, you will make her day. Why? Because most men are Pussies, and this action of approaching and being a man is primal. She will feel special regardless of how bitchy, immature or happy or responsive she shows you she is.

Clean up the mess out there men. Nothing has changed, people have just gotten scared and confused. Women are still women, men are still men.

Flirt with them, talk to them, meet them and by all means have fun.

To your success,

Trevor Russell

Grant Rant #123 – How to Overcome Fear and Insecurity

Hey Superheros,

Check out Grant Cardons video here on How to Overcome Fear and Insecurity.

Grants message is so very relevant to not only how you conduct yourself in your work, business and life for going after what brings up fear.

It is one of the most important messages to get, when it comes to approaching women, becoming Successful with Meeting Women and Getting Your Ideal Women, or man for this matter (if your a women or a man who likes men).

It’s to go for what you want while you feel fear.

The Key Steps to Manage Fear:

Go for what you want while you feel fear. We all feel it, you’re human, but its about you doing what you must while you feel it.

Fill your calender with positive activities. Time gaps creates Fear.
Or in other words, the Devil makes use of ideal time.

What ever you feel fear about, do it and do it quickly! It does not need to be done perfect, just do it!

If you see a women you like the look of and want to meet, go up to her and introduce yourself and ask for her number or her face book name, make the connection. You’ll live.

If you want to make the girl you are friends with, into your girlfriend (leave the friends zone).

Say, ok, its time, we’re going out on a date. I’m awesome, your cute, I’m taking you out this Friday night and we are going to dance and have a blast. Ill pick you up at 7.

If she says no, then say, ok, but your loss. And then go get a girl you can cuddle, kiss and have sex with.
Letting go of this bullshit friends thing forever.
You know you want more and so does she.

Be a man and go get a girlfriend.

Remember guys and gals, it’s all a game, so have fun and be social and enjoy yourself.

You be the boss of your monkey mind fears. Not the monkey.

To you being Better, Faster, Stronger.

Trevor Russell

Are you Smiling Man?


Hey fellow Superhero’s,

I have a story to tell you. I was out at a cafe yesterday sitting down to have a nice coffee when I saw very attractive and fit blond women, whom I looked and smiled. I just felt it was what I must do. And honestly, I smile at just about everyone I get eye contact with these days.

It’s a much nicer fun way of living. You must try it and do it more. So much more!
This message for today; and this extremely valuable superhero quality is to get you to smile.
As Michael Jackson sings ‘Smile’… you need to listen to the words because it is so true. Even when life delivers all its ups and downs, which it’s going to do forever, you should smile go for the ride. Smile!

Watch the movie P.S. I Love You. Check out Gerard Butler (he’s the guy that dies). He’s always smiling and having a great time, even when they’re arguing. He keeps his head while she’s loosing hers.

Stage 1. To improving your ability to meet, connect and become super successful with more women.


When talking to guys about how they can meet more women, have more success with women, I so often hear them wanting what to say when they approach a women they don’t know, what to stay to do to get them into the sack. (bed)

Then I look see they are so nervous in their own skin, they can’t even look a women straight up in the eye and smile at them and maintain posture and a confidence.

If you’re falling into this category, I say to you this is your lesson.

Lesson for today

1.      When you are out and see women, any and every woman. Look at them and give them a nice smile.

2.      Push through your ego’s defenses, your silly monkey mind fears and have you stand tall like a superhero.

3.      The point here is to not necessarily get a smile back, its you being A MAN, walking tall and being a confident however humble man that wants to connect and bring happiness to yourself and then to others. In this case the beautiful women on the planet.

I dare you to see how you go with this challenge. It may seem simple, however be the observer of your emotions and see what happens. I’d love to hear your feedback on what occurs for you.

Hey you may even meet some lovely ladies. What a bonus!

A smile not only lets a woman know you’re having fun and not taking yourself too seriously, it shows that, hey, I’m a fun guy to get to know! Most guys are so nervous they forget to smile and show any form of confidence.

When you do get eye contact and keep smiling, she’ll find it harder and harder to keep from smiling herself. And once she’s smiling, or even laughing, you may have your first foot in the door. Also when you walk into a place with lots of ladies everywhere, enter with the biggest smile you can muster and look around at everyone in the eye, like you own the joint. This is confidence and power, which girls just love in a guy.

Hey superhero, please understand I am also not reducing the importance of things that go on your in life. Some can seem very important at times. Insecurities, women, friends, job, relationships, fears, money worries, loneliness, can all be very overwhelming and make life challenging to live. For which I am working to provide you many ways and steps to help combat these challenges.

However an important action at the top of the list is about smiling. It makes all the rest of the stuff much easier to do.

Give yourself a break and have a smile, ‘especially’ if you want to have ladies in your life. They want to have fun more than anyone. So Smile!! When you do this, it just takes the heaviness out of it all.

It’s time for a smile! That’s right! Before you do anything… smile right now!

See my friend you’re way too hard on you and we are way too serious on this planet.

As Mystery (The Game) says, ‘This is not a war game; no one gets shot or killed.’ It’s fun!

Please, if you get anything from this article, focus on having more fun each day, with yourself and your woman. You’ll love it and they’ll love you for it.  

To your super power,

Trevor Russell



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