How to get more women, just by swinging the bat

10 Swings, 3 Strikes and You’re In!

How do you get more women, just by swinging the bat? 
Well my fellow Superheros, wanting for a better life and to be Super Successful at
Meeting and Getting your Woman or Women. 

Please take a deep breath and let’s move on with your super training.

As one of the key contributors men face with women, such as jealously, possessiveness and dysfunction in relationships, is due to a lack of choices. Know anyone like this or have you ever felt it? I know I have. 

It’s my observation that if men had a greater ability to meet more women, they’d be less attached to these primal attributes of control. As they would know in their soul, if the relationship was not working in a functional and mature manner, he would be able move on and find another mate. 

With this inner confidence of knowing how to meet and connect with women, it also makes him more attractive to his current woman, as she feels his confidence and knows that he has the ability and power to stay or leave.

Let’s look at an example of what I mean: 

Let us take a look at John and Michelle. John happens to get introduced by a friend to a
beautiful woman named Michelle and after meeting and talking, she shows some interest.
Bang! John has someone to pursue.

John takes her out, does the dating and romance thing and they eventually have sex. However she’s not really what he wants personality wise. To John, she’s seems a little rude and somewhat boring, but she looks pretty good and pays him some attention and he starts getting sex. He thinks to himself, ‘She aggravates me a little but getting sex. I don’t have any other options, so I better keep on my toes and pursue her!’

Michelle doesn’t really have anyone else paying her attention so she keeps going out with John. She can sense her power, as John does all these things for Michelle and is always there when she needs him. She can sense his desperation for not wanting to do anything to lose her. And this is leading to have him be less and less attractive to Michelle.

What she wants is for him to have his own opinion and not just be there for her when she says jump.

What happens next? Eventually Michelle is less and less available; and eventually she leaves him.
John in his state of thinking he has done everything he can do and not knowing what he has done is devastated.

If we had a differently trained John who knew he had skills to meet other women and his life would go on whether Michelle was in it or not, he would have given off a much more powerful air of confidence, which she would feel as a woman and which is very attractive to her.

She may even try to test him, complain and test him to see if she can control him and get him to give her more attention. But with John being strong and independent, standing his ground as a man, she will be far more attracted to him because he’s a man and has his own life and choices.

With the relationship having a much better possibility of working as Michelle would want to change somewhat to suit John and John would be accommodating also but confident with a life of his own.

They may find a common ground, from a place of understanding each other needs, but not from a place of codependent dysfunctional need!

So what’s the message of the story?

Have good skills and confidence with women and you’ll have successful relationships and overall a far more rewarding satisfying life. If you’re going to bring the type of women you want into your life, you’re going to need to be out meeting and chatting and connecting with more women so you can develop your skills.

By taking action, you will develop your skills, which will improve your confidence and then you will have more choices.

Please you have to get how important this statement is.

Just like a good sales person, the reason he is successful is because he is out asking if people would like to buy his product. No asking, no sale. Asking, some no’s, however some yeses.

This leads me to the formula I love. You don’t have to question it; you just have to following it.

 

Learn about yourself and who you are, attain the right knowledge by what you are doing here which is studying and from all the other information I have recommended you study, to then be on your way to developing a plan of attack.

Take this in because it’s important:

Because you’re now backed with the skills to attract women and ask them out for dates. As an average let’s say you meet 10 women, statistically you will get an average of 3 to 4 successes. By successes I mean, yes to going out, dates and possibly 1 or 2 you’re really interested in and can pursue.  

For most men, you couldn’t even imagine meeting 10 women in a year let alone a week. However if we remove all the emotions of going and meeting women and compare it to baseball… if you were on the bating pitch and you take a swing and it’s a gutter ball, you’d move back up to the plate, pick the bat up again and swing.

However what do men do out there like in the example of John and Michelle? What they do is, take one swing and then stick with it because they think it’s the only chance they’re going to get.

Or they’re just lazy and it’s the only effort their willing to make! I’ve got one now, she’s ok, I’ll marry her and then I can sit back and relax and become a fat bastard!

However this book is about being Super Successful with Women! So what do the best golfers, baseballers, basketballers and footballers do to be successful at their craft? Well firstly they take lots of swings and these are skilled swings having learning from trial and error. With all this skill they still have around a 60 to 70% average overall success rate with swings, strikes and dunks.

But what do they do that the majority don’t?
They keep on getting back up and taking the swing.  
This is how they over time become champions!
They keep swinging.

So other important stats for your to be aware of to help you feel better about yourself. With nothing being personal about you, with taking 10 swings to meet and ask women out and why on average only 3 to 4 home runs? I’m here to say this swing average is not low due to you.
What it is due to is, that on average 30% of woman are married or taken, 30% are not going to work for you or them due to interest’s connection and beliefs.

This leaves around 30% or again 3 strikes.

So what is the key to having greater success and higher home runs?
Get your swing average up! Ok, practice better swinging skills; however get the swing average up.

Whether the girl’s response is positive or negative, it doesn’t matter.
It’s having had a go and learning how to be confident enough to walk up to the plate and swing that bat!

So my friend, keep learning to step up to the plate and get swinging.

The swinging of that meeting women bat!

Then back it with further practice to hit the ball as best as you can consistently to make those home runs.

If you want to really master the art of being Super Successful with Women, you must do yourself a favour and read this book. 
I promise you for your efforts it will change your life. 

http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/successwithwomen

No please go out there and swing that bat of talking, asking and doing. 

Until then, may you enjoy many wonderful things. 

Trevor Russell 

How to get a girl to kiss you in less than 5 minutes

Hello fellow Superheros! 

Yes it is possible to get a girl to kiss you in less than 5 minutes. 
Check this video out with how to play the 5 Questions to a Kiss Game. 

http://youtu.be/IRXZuKxJ2es

This game is so much fun to play anywhere when you're out meeting women socially. 
And from my experience women always like a nice kiss or 10. :)  

Oh and ladies you can play this game also with guys. Go on I dare you! 

To your success with the ladies, and men. 

Wow! Maybe you'll end up pashing a Hottie Just like this one. 
How nice! 

Top 10 Rules for Dating & Romance for Men Over 55

Hey fellow Superhero’s,

Dating and Romancing

Dating and Romancing

Ok, so it’s time for me to provide you men, over 55, with the golden gems of how to successfully date women, connect with women and meet women over 55.

The reason for me writing this BLOG post is because I have been listening to a number of women, (including my mother – God bless her cotton socks) who have been sharing with me, all the stupid and unconscious things the more mature men are doing out there on the dating and romance scene.

If you’re a man in this demographic 55 + group, (and younger) and want to up your game in dating, romance and building a quality relationship with quality women.
It’s time to set the game straight.

Here we go Super Man!

Top 10 Rules for Dating and Romance for Men Over 55

1. Let go of the past

If you’re holding any anger and frustration about ex-wives who you feel have taken you for all your money, the businesses that failed, or the kids you’re in battle with or you don’t talk to, or maybe it’s the work colleagues or friends that piss you off.

If you’ve got any of this fear, anger, depressing ‘monkey-mind’ stuff going on, get on the job now, it’s time to clean house. Clean it up any habits of manipulation, control and fears with yourself and the people you have been thinking of are doing it to you.

This may be new to you or a pleasant reminder.

We can’t change the past; however we can find the courage and strength as super men, to find forgiveness and acceptance so we can move forward with our lives. And love women the way good clear courageous men should love their women.

I’d say part of why you’re on the date is to move forward. So go forward with humility, clarity, good cheer and love in your heart. Love for yourself and love for the lovely lady you are about to meet. Whether it goes anywhere or not, we all need more love.

Go on a date with an intention to have a clear head with good thoughts and feelings. Not baggage full of anger and hate which will only have you end in just more frustration and disappointment. Remember you don’t have to be perfect and have your life all perfect, this is ridiculous and impossible. Its about the AIM to be more responsible for yourself and what has happened, whether you like it or not.

Then you’re free to make better choices and be happier in yourself and this is attractive to good women.

2. Calm you’re nerves

I understand that going on a date with a stranger can be scary and bring up all sorts of fears. Maybe you’ve come out of a hard and painful divorce, your wife may have died, or you may have been out of the dating scene for years.
All good reasons for your nerves to mess with you. Saying Danger Danger.

If you’re feeling nervous, my simplest advice is to go for a good brisk wall for 10 minutes before you go on your date. Do this every time.

Take good deep breaths that will have the nervous energy move through your body.
Talk to yourself and tell you’re here to have fun, to enjoy yourself and her company; you don’t need to know everything about what and how to be. It will all be wonderful.

Say to yourself, calm down, have fun and be social. Enjoy her company and mine.

Breathe breathe and more breathing! 

3. Lighten up and be fun

Going out on a date is meant to be enjoyable and fun. For the lovely lady you’re meeting and for yourself. You’re going to meet a new person and explore how you may both connect and become friends or maybe even something more.

I’m not 55 yet, however I will be one day. And I use this mantra now, with a great woman as my partner. Whether single or in a relationship…

I go out and Have Fun and Be Social. Have Fun & Be Social. Have Fun & Be Social.

Whenever my mind goes into Serious Mode, such as, what will she think, did I say the wrong thing, does she think I’m ugly??? Blah Blah Blah.

You try it! I promise you it’s really lightens the whole energy you are giving out.

Whether women are 25 or 65, they’re still little girls at heart, just like we are little boys. And what do kids love to do? HAVE FUN!

So prepare yourself my good man, before going on a date, have some funny stories to share with her about what has recently happened to you. Maybe the story of when you couldn’t find your glasses, which you had on your head all along.

Or you can’t believe how much you clean your tool shed and keep all the tools in the right spot, only if you could be this organized with cooking your dinner.

You get it! 

Just having the intention of being more fun, light and social, will have you start thinking and acting in this way.

So go out and enjoy yourself, allow yourself to have fun, you deserve it, show her a great time filled with fun and laughter.

4. Be Interesting and Interested

The latest reports from the good women I have been getting feedback from, are telling me, many of you men talk way too much about yourself. Tut tut tut!

Now I get you may be feeling nervous and sometimes we talk too much when this is going on. However it’s important you keep yourself calm and stop talking so much, and the easiest way to stop this, is to….

LISTEN! Listen to her and what she is saying and take your time to respond.
Women are just as afraid as you are, if not more. You are this strange man she has just met and it takes her a little while to warm up.

The right way to interact with women goes like this.

You come in as a man, light fun, with good cheer and allow her to feel safe and comfortable by sharing some things about yourself and hopefully with good fun and humor. As she feels more relaxed she will share more and more with you.

You hit the ball, she hits it back. DON’T YOU, be hitting the ball, hitting the ball and hitting the ball again and again at her, like some out of control tennis ball shooting machine.

Yes be interesting, share with her about your life and your interests and experiences, and at the say time. Listen to her, with humility, ask her questions and focus on her and focus on seeing the beauty in her.

Be respectful to her for the life she has lived, the battles she has endured just as you have. When you have this intention behind your communication, you just watch how much nicer it will be for you and how much more enjoyment you will bring to her and the date.

5. Be a Good Man

If you’re in the age brake of 55 + as a man, there’s a very good chance that you were raised with the focus of it being about money, toughness, maybe even examples of controlling, manipulative male figures and being a braggart to your mates and buddies.
Actually come to think of it, it’s s like this for lots of men even now.

Ok, so anyways, my point here is. Be a good man. Women like good men, especially mature 50 + women. Who are past being attracted to troubled, arrogant controlling men.
They’ve been through all the battles and are on the other end of this journey.

I not saying you have to be a wussy weak, no strength and presence as a man. I mean be a man.

Yes, these women care about safe and security, so having your own money and self reliant life is important. However what is more important to them is you are a gentlemen, you are patient, well spoken, humble, able to listen, smell clean, laugh and be in your own manhood without being a boastful loud mouth. Thinking you have to brag about your worldly exploits to have her be impressed by you.

If this is how you’ve been living, maybe just check in on how this way of being has worked out for you so far?

So calm down and take a look at yourself. How are you acting? Do you talk yourself up egotistically and how great you are and where you live and what you have done?

Or are you focused on being a good man, with a love and respect for yourself for whatever you have in your life?

Whether the woman you are with has built her own successes and career or she is the more humble quiet type. I want you to know, they just want you to be a man that is nice to be with, is fun in your own unique way, can laugh at yourself, has interests and friends and who is fun and respects them for who they are.

You don’t need to show them up or prove you are better.

Be a good man to yourself and her and watch the magic happen.

6. Be Positive – Not a Don the Downer

When you’re on a date it’s important to be positive. Yes she wants to hear about your family, your career and your kids and interests.
She will also be interested to hear what may have been some of your challenges in life such as the loss of a partner or a wife and children, a job or business.

What will get very tiring very quickly for her is when you are being a Don the Downer. Don the Downer is the guy who is depressing and negative and talks about how hard his life has been and is, how he was ripped off and left with nothing. Like a helpless rabbit caught in the spot light of life’s journey.

Women will sympathies with you, because this is what they are designed to do. Be good nurtures. However women and especially more mature women, have generally done more than enough fixing and nurturing, they want some good love from a good man, fun, enjoyment and some adventure.

So share with them the stories of the past, however keep it coming from of a space of… Well that was then and this is now, I’m doing my best to live life and enjoy it and it’s a pleasure to be here with you.

7. Fat Tummy, No Honey

Now here’s the deal. I’m not saying you have to be an Arnold with muscles and a 32 inch waist. What I am saying is, make the time to be presentable, especially when you’re going on a date.

If you find you’re overweight then take the time to loss the weight and do some exercise.
How many times I hear men wanting to date (whether they are 35 or 65) attractive well presented women, when they themselves look like crap. How is this going to ever be possible.

It maybe if you have heaps of money and your dating some women who is only interested in getting into your wallet. Which I feel is selling your sole for all the wrong reasons. For you and for her.

This is not the way a superman conducts himself. We seek Truth, Courage and Honesty.

If you need to get to work on cleaning yourself up. Then do it! Start working, cut back on your fatty foods and beer. Eat more good foods.

You will feel better, more confident and vital and alive, which is much more attractive to yourself when you look in the mirror and to her when she is looking at you.
And the bonus is your sex life is so much better when you’re slimmer and fitter.

Here are some other important tips for you when going on a date.

• Make sure the hair on your head whether you have a little or a lot, is clean and tidy.
• Your eyebrow, noise and ears are clean and tidy.
• Wear nice presentable cloths and shoes.
• Make sure your shoes are clean and tidy.
• Where cloths that fit you and make sure your shirt pressed and fits you.
• Have a show and put deodorant on and a little aftershave but not too much.
• Make sure your breath and body smells good. If you know you have a breath problem,
have mints or go to the doctors and find out what can be done to help.

It seems the skin on our bodies does some wild stuff after about 45 so if you any have skin tags on your neck and face, or under your arms etc, gets them removed. Women hate them and they’re ugly. Most doctors can do this under Medicare.

Again remember, it’s not about being the slimmest, best looking guy in the world. It’s just about you being the best, you can for you.

Make the effort, I promise it will be worth it.

8. Be patient

Be patient when you’re dating and talking. By this I mean, you do not have to spill your guts and most intimate desires in 30 minutes.

What I have been told by so many mature women when out dating is how the men tell them everything they want and that they want it right now.

Any of these sound familiar to you?

I’m really looking for a woman to move in with me as I need company and don’t want to be alone.
I want travel in a van around the country, would you like to do this with me. (asked on the first date)
I’m a specialist in star signs and I know everything about you and we are so compatible. Do you want to sleep with me tonight?

It’s good and healthy and more than likely the ultimate objective to want to have sex, to have a travel companion, to get married and have a new wife and new life together and to have a woman love you and take care of you.

However you don’t need to tell her that you want all of this on the first date.

Women want to be with men, men want to be with women, however it’s your role as the man, to be a man and romance her.
Be patient, be interesting, show her a good time, tell her less and do more.

Remember, she is a little girl at heart; she wants fun, mystery and adventure. Show her these experiences and you won’t have a problem in the world.

If you’re going on dates, go and do some things that allow other topics to be discussed other than yourself and what you want.

Go to the museum, the art gallery, a concert in the park, the markets; feed the birds at the zoo. All the places where there are interesting things to discuss and do together.

If things go the way you both want, you will have plenty of time to share your goals and dreams together.

9. Be a romantic

We have already talked a lot about being a man and how to treat a woman. I do feel though for us to get you to superhero status, stat! It’s an extremely important point to be very specific with, which is to be romantic.

As I have said, women 50 plus are done with games, they want a man. Actually all women want A Man! The good news for you here in this time of your life you can be a romantic confident man, with complete safety because your date will really appreciate you for it.

So romance it up.

Whether it’s the first time you have met this woman or you’re meeting more regularly. Be a romantic and by this I mean.

• Be at the venue or place you are meeting early so you can greet her.
• Greet her and stand up and shake her hand gently and politely.
Or if you know her give her a polite kiss on the cheek.
• Open the door for her and smile with a nice open pleasant manly attitude.
• Walk along side her with patience.
• Pull out the seat for her and seat her at a table.
• Get her a glass of water and give it to her.
• When she talks, listen and wait for her to finish before speaking.
• When she orders allow her to order for herself.

Please remember, go easy on the alcohol, you want to maintain control and keep in check what you are saying and be able to listen to her with focus.

Whenever you can sit at a 45 degree angle to her as this is a much easier way to communicate and she will feel far less threaten by you. Positioning yourself straight across from her, especially on a first date, can be quite overwhelming for women, so make it easier on her.

Sitting across from each other is for after you’ve had sex and are more intimate.

This is another BLOG post. 

10. On the first date, You Pay, Always!

Ok, here we are at the final rule for today’s post, which is addressing the very important point about… who pays.
This is a point which confuses many men, especially in this age bracket.
Why?
I think it’s because of so much media garbage that confuses the hell out of men.

I’m telling you my good man, whatever you read or hear. Here is the answer.

YOU PAY!

You pay as the man taking her out on the first date, whether it’s for a juice, a drink, coffee or dinner or movie. You as the man, pay.

The reason I am so clear on this point is because as Mother Nature intended. You are the man who was put here to romance the women and this is part of the courtship process.

Now, here is the key, you don’t have to take her to some ridiculously expensive restaurant to impress her and you don’t pay to hopefully win brownie points.

You pay because you want to, as a man should. Get the difference?

If she is concerned about you paying, be in control and just make it fun and say something such as;

‘hey I’ve been saving my pennies for a few centuries now for this opportunity, so please let me fulfill on my goal here today’.

Or, with a smile say, ‘I’ve been working for a while now, ‘I think I can just scrape by to get this one’. You get the next one, ok’.

Get it! It’s about keeping it light and fun while you maintain your sense of manly attraction to her.

If you progress on into a relationship there will be plenty of time for her to pay for you and visa versa.

Ok so there you have it, my 10 Rules for Dating and Romance for Men over 55.
I really hope this has helped to clear up some confusing and give you more clarity about improving you dating and romance skills.

Let me know how you go, I’d love to hear your stories.

Now, go out there and have some fun and be social and enjoy your life.

To your Super Success,

Trevor Russell

Making a Decision to be Truthful

Ok my superhero’s, here’s a new’s flash that will get you powering up!

I want to talk to you about what ever superhero should have as the very cool values to live by. Being decisive and truthful.

My girlfriend was sharing a story yesterday with me, regarding this client (ill call him David), she is dealing with in her business.

She sells properties using creative property strategies. Anyways, this guy David, purchased a property off her and agreed to a payment plan for some of the deposit monies to acquire the property.

In this time since he has moved in to the house, he has never met his agreement terms, due to being late and paying different amounts he says he will and sometimes just off the radar with no contact.

To make matters worse for himself, David lies. He comes up with all these stories of how you is going to pay on an agreed date and what he will pay. To only not follow through.

To make matters worse for himself, when he is confronted for not doing what he say he will, he calls the property owner and says he is being harassed.

So where am I going with this story? Good question.

The point I want to share is. Is firstly the observation of David’s life. It’s a mess!

He is always having problems with what is showing up in his life. He has lost money, has bad dysfunctional relationship and gets no respect, especially from my girlfriend.

I hear what he is attempting to do which he feels is a noble strategy, is to people please.
Do you get this term?

He says he will do things in the hope he has pleased the other person and this particularly lets him off the hook. To only bring more suffering and grief to him.

My message here to David and to all me is, make a Decision to be Truthful in your word.

David would be much better to say the truth. For Example, I can only pay this amount of money by this time. Even if its much less and takes much longer for him.

My girlfriend said if he did this she would respect him so much more for being truthful and honest instead of just attempting to please here and let himself off the hook.

I personally see from experience is much better to be truthful even if it feels hard to communicate and be respected for it. Than to people please and be a wussy lyer.

If you are going to live a life of clarity and empowerment, make a decision to tell the truth and be honest, even if it feels hard to do.

The lessons to take here:

  1. Take full responsibility for your life and your word. You will be respected by women so much more. They just want the truth.
  2. If you don’t have the money to pay right now, tell them and put a truthful payment plan in place that can work for you.
  3. If you don’t agree with something she says, tell her you choose to disagree on that point.
  4. All the while being a cool, clear, calm, decisive and truthful man.

Note: don’t be a dick about it either, by acting like some hard noised riotous macho man.Just be honest and truthful and humble.

If you want to get a girlfriend, keep a girlfriend, live a happier and more peaceful life in mind and spirit, like a superhero like you should!

Then make a decision as a superman to be truthful.

To your super success,

Trevor Russell

 

 

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